October 29, 2009

Pastor Jonah & Mission Update!


We heard from our friends Sister Penny and Pastor Jonah and have been given an update on Pastor Jonah's Missions!

Pastor Jonah has been very busy with many different activities. There have been many changes to the blog making it much easier to navigate and find different parts of interest.

We can also see more ABOUT the mission here. They'd love to hear your feedback. There is great work being done in Kericho and northern parts of Kenya, but more donors are needed.


Currently the team in Kenya is stretching their funds.

There has also been a team of contacts visiting Pastor Jonah's village and ultimately making a commitment to build a much needed well in Marigat. Though this is far north of where Pastor Jonah lives, it is part of the missionary outreaches. The need is for about 4 more wells.


Additionally there is a project to help the ladies with their backbreaking work of collecting wood and cooking. The traditional 3 stone stoves are not good for their health or for the environment. With funds for only about 8 of the stoves, 20+ more are needed. Faithful donors is how real change can be made.

Read here to know more about what a jiko stove is.

There has also been word of a more practical stove. Practical Action in Kenya has a new stove called "Fireless Cooker". These seem much cheaper and achieve a similar goal to the jiko. Readers, please spread the word, and or donate for a few of these cookers by going on the site now.

There are, of course, more urgent ongoing needs for food, school supplies, hospital care and medicines too.

We hope you can see that Pastor Jonah and his supporters, including Sister Penny, are still keeping very busy by God's grace. Though they lost 3 women in the village since July; two to cancer, they are staying optimistic and continuing the fight to rise above circumstances.

We at the House hope we are making their voices heard and their visions attainable.

Do what you can!

October 27, 2009

Dr. Sander Marcus in the House!

photo courtesy of Dr. Sander Marcus' collection


What a special treat to have a few words of encouragement and focus as many of us are seeking employment and making new life changes.

Dr. Sander Marcus was kind enough to share his background and wisdom. I know we will benefit from his words!

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What were your professional intentions upon enrolling in a Psych program?

Actually, I'm an example of how most people "choose" their career - they just seem to "fall into" a career, based on chance opportunities usually. I know that happened to me. Just a few months before I graduated college (I was a chemistry major), I just happened to see a movie in which one of the characters was a therapist, and the part was written in a very positive manner (unlike how most people in my field are portrayed in film). I walked out of that movie theater knowing what I want to do. I opted for psychology because I didn't want 4 years of medical school. So I got a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and here I am, 40 years later.


What avenues did you cross on your path? How did it help you evolve into this Job Market guru?

I'm not sure I'd refer to myself as a "guru," but over 30 years ago I was hired by IIT to be the University's Counseling Center Director, which I did for 9 years. One of my responsibilities was career and job search counseling, and I've been doing it ever since - first at IIT, then in private practice, and now back in the fold on the staff of IIT's Center for Research & Service (a division of IIT's Institute of Psychology).


Your "Changing Career" advise shares that we must all consider strategy. What are some 'helpful planning' tips?

For career planning, there are many things to consider in making a decision. The most important thing is to gain a perspective on one's personal characteristics, motivation, values, goals, aptitudes and abilities, interest patterns, and knowledge of careers and the job market. Once you have a line on these factors, and then take a step back and see where the important criteria are in your individual situation, then you can make an informed career choice.

I know that's a little general, but there is no such thing as a standard human being, and everyone's situation is different.


What are some productive ways to narrow ideas and gather pertinent information to bring clarity to a successful job search?

I think that you have to get clarity about the kind of job title you are looking for, how you see your "role" (i.e., a helping role? a sales role? a managerial role? a technical role? etc.), not only what company but what industry (or industries) you are interested in and where they are going, your pattern of skills and knowledge, and similar factors.


Obviously you enjoy people and helping them overcome challenges, tell us about Illinois Institute of Technology, what you've contributed there, and how we can engage with you directly.

Thanks for the plug. I am the Practice Leader for Career and Educational Assessments Services for the IIT Center for Research & Service, which is a fee-for-service to the outside community. We do not actually work with IIT students (except for a few special projects). The services my unit provides include comprehensive career counseling and testing, job search coaching and
resume writing, achievement motivation counseling and evaluations. Our Center works with companies (surveys, special research, 360 evaluations, consultation, training, pre-employment testing, and related services).

My books are:

"The Psychology of Underachievement: Differential Diagnosis and Differential Treatment," by Drs. Harvey Mandel and Sander Marcus, 1988, Wiley & Sons, New York.

"Could Do Better: Why Children Underachieve And What To Do About It" (a book for parents of underachievers), by Drs. Harvey Mandel and Sander Marcus (with Loral Dean), 1995, Wiley & Sons, New York.

I have also written a 22-page pamphlet (71 Keys to Getting Better Grades Easier and In Less Time), which is published by our Center and is available for $8(including postage). This is appropriate for high school and college age students. I am also the Testing Supervisor for a project that the Center and the Clinical Psychology program have with the Chicago Public Schools(CPS).

We provide all of the admissions testing for children (ages pre-kindergarten through grade 3, and grades 6 and 7) applying to the CPS gifted programs. This our 4th year with this project, in which we test over 5,000 children within a 4-month period (from the beginning of November to the end of February). Put all of these activities together, and I'd say that I am busy. In addition, I am the President of the Rotary Club of Chicago Near South, writer, speaker, and an amateur violinist. I can be contacted at my IIT office 312-567-3358 in Chicago or by email marcus (at) iit (dot) edu.


Cheers,
Sandy

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Dr. Marcus (Sandy) THANKS!!!! (from the House ~ )

October 26, 2009

I hate fall ~

photo courtesy of Dawn Copeland


One reason I abhor fall is NO MORE TOMATOES!

Eating fresh tomatoes is a high for me.

I love slicing for sandwiches of rice and veggies or diced up in a tortilla with veggie cheese, beans and yellow rice.

I enjoy adding them to pastas, sauce or simply by themselves for a treat tapping out a dash of sea salt.

Frying up green tomatoes in a mixture of spicey bread crumbs with paprika, turmeric and season salt is delightful!

My favorite Veggie Tales hero is Bob!







Well farewell ~ Adieu

See you next year, I'll be missing you!

October 22, 2009

Pampered Chef!




As a new contributor for the fabulous online magazine CHICAGONISTA , I was able to partake in a super event that my editor MJ TAM invited me to!

We took in lux and libations at The Pampered Chef, Ltd.

A typical wet, windy, wild, and cold autumn Chicago day turned into quite the holiday festivity!

We were welcomed with wonderful packets that included recipes and fact sheets.

Delectable CRAN-RASBERRY FIZZ greeted us in incredibly adorable martini glasses. The afternoon skyrocketed from there with great hospitality, laughter and good friends!











For those of you unfamiliar, Pampered Chef is an age old business opportunity where folks host parties and sample products and utensils, recipes and ideas.

The guys and gals who were kind enough to give us this "party", Rochelle, Caitlin, Damian, Brian, Barbara and the entire hosting staff, were simply marvelous and gracious!








Filling our bodies; tummies, minds, hearts and souls with fun and food - having us walk away with a spectacular array of goodies and desires - made the rain and cold bearable and the fires in our bellies bright.

Thanks to all who participated in making this a great date.






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October 16, 2009

Whirllingly Wonderful Yesterday!



Women For Hire was the beginning of my blog journey.

It has been a few years, and I really no longer recall how I found my way to Tory Johnson's site, but I did.

I met Latrice Fowler, now known as "Raising Chefs". At the time, Latrice was blogging at two of her sites. I was awed. She taught me how and that is all we wrote!

Since Women For Hire, I have joined several women's groups and met incredible, entrepreneurial spirits. I have been mentored, inspired and watered to grow!

It has been a fabulous journey.

I have wanted to attend Tory's Job Fairs but have never had the opportunity; either my child situation or job schedule was screwy - things - just did not fall into place. As I always say, "timing is always right when things happen, they were meant to be."

Yesterday was my day.

Having won the tickets to the before breakfast seminar through Chicago MomsLikeMe.com, {YES, I actually WON something!!}, I fell into an excited Tory Johnson groupie mode.

I absolutely LOVE NAVY PIER - rain, snow or shine, it is one of my favorite places on the planet. I did discover yesterday though, that it is so far out from land, making it difficult to get a signal to Twitter, but I still LOVE it!



The seminar far exceeded my expectation. So much so, I did not even make it to the fair! Each session was approximately 20 minutes. With no frills, no slides or boring video - I found myself actually preferring the bare essentials.

The opening session was with Dr. Sander Marcus - his bio blip captured me like no other: "...clinical and career psychologist". That he was. The tips he shared offered a glimpse into the mind of interviewers, which I took for my own in my desire to be engaging and taking critical information from every professional encounter.

I unfortunately missed the two middle sessions because I was networking! Such awesome folk in attendance. Out of work, maybe. Transitional searches, could be. BUT there was no lack in spirit or verve.

The next session I attended was with Anna Soo Wildermuth, a personal image consultant. She gave insight on how people "SEE" you. So invaluable. The final session was with the enigmatic Sima Dahl! Her "SWAY FACTOR" was so unique.

The level of information packed into a few hours really shows the depth of Women For Hire and their commitment to women and our issues ~ what fun and big thank yous to all for enlightening my life for an entire day!

Kudos!

October 14, 2009

You're worth your weight





I am so happy to share with you today some healthy concepts that I have implemented into my life and - whattaya know they are working!

I am a big woman. 6'1 and hmmphmpm??? pounds. I still do not own a scale. But, I know I could afford to lose about 10-15 pounds.

At my age, simply being a vegan (3 years now) has not done anything for me weight wise-though I have energy and health that I can really feel.

I have lost inches and am now really working on the pounds.

Eliminating sugar, fructose corn syrup and bleached white flour have helped. Yoga has helped, but after my interviews with Find Your Balance Health & THE NATURAL COUNSELOR things began to turn around.

Breathing deeply. Calming myself has reduced cortisone and thus reducing that pocket formed around my waist! Sleeping better has made moods better. AND 45 minutes of vigorous exercise has made the most difference.

Staying hydrated has also been instrumental in keeping me in my optimum health. I couldn't be more excited.

The life long struggle with weight and good health has been much more palatable with easy, tangible information. Finding excellent, informative life coaches has enlightened my perspective.

I am actually looking forward to my 50's to see just how healthy I can get!

How about you? What has been your biggest struggle? Your remedy? Recipes?

October 13, 2009

"Wave your hands in the air-Wavem like you just don't care~"

photo by JMD

We all come here perfect in peace until we gasp for that first breath.

No malady or physical challenge robs us of that. We all come here with promise.

Yes, horrible things happen to good people.

Menacing people hurt good and bad people every few seconds. Then there is the law of nature. Then there is "only the strong survive".

It is the way that has been since the dawn of time.

Chicago has a new {well, not really so new} label as a violent urban city.

Chicago Public School students have died every week for quite a while...I suppose over 30 weeks. I must say, I was glad my child spent the summer away, it upped his survival chances quite a bit.

Being young and black encourages your statistical demise three-fold.

It is a sad assessment of our culture and society's treatment of it - BUT, it is not simply a racial factor. People of color are not the only ones in the court system, but typically the only group represented in the correctional system. But that is not what I would like to discuss today.

There have always been evil nemesis affecting societal growth and progression.

As we have evolved, there are those of us who have somehow missed the train, and decided to "get theirs" by any means necessary - mainly by taking whats yours.

For years, I have watched the criminal culture come and go from my office. Of the hundreds of thousands I have supervised, there have been few successes.

Examining the way people behave allows us to see the fine line between us all.

My challenge to you today is, after centuries of misconduct, what can we do to promote a healthier, happier, gentler,less violent society?

Penal institutions alone are not working. Community outreach was becoming effective until the bottom dropped out of our economy.

Is there another way? Can we look for answers while we are all fighting for our financial lives?

You have heard me say this before, but I so support a global effort. Education, in my view, is the only way.

I shared on a social networking site Saturday, that I did a bit of grocery shopping Saturday morning. A downtown location with a very integrated population, so, the inventory is spectacular. You can purchase a range of goodies from all over the globe.

Before I could even get out of my car, a mid-aged couple of at least mid to late 30's, their 18ish year old and a toddler walked in with me. The man was about 5'4,wearing a black hat black jacket and jeans. I was glancing quickly. If you live in an urban setting and are a parent, you know that you tend to ponder a large scope of things while walking anywhere. You attempt to survey your area for safety, purposefully place your keys somewhere you will remember, try to account for the items you came there for and also try to be in folks video, after all we are human creatures. The woman was of same height, wearing a tan colored jacket and she had long braids. The teen was very tall with a brown hoody. He too had braids and was rapping. LOUDLY. The toddler was screaming "Shut UP!!!" After every one of the teen's verses, he would scream, "Shut UP!!!". I could not help but think the same, about both of them, so when I entered the store I went in the opposite direction hoping I navigated away from them so I would not be pissed in the store.

No such luck. As karma would have it, we bumped and bumped and bumped. The teen never shutting up, the toddler had by this time given in and was learning vile spew and the parents never uttered a single syllable.

No matter where I turned, I had to see the display. Finally, with my list almost complete, I ran to the deli for my son's pound-o-honey-roasted-turkey meat. Almost next to be served when "Hip-Hop Thug Life" and his parents approached. {Explicative}

He was STILL rapping.

By now, he was entertaining the poor baby: "YOU gotta throw em up!" "You gotta! Yeh boy, you gotta yell out that gangsta sh**"

I was then able to garner a more descriptive angle to this family picture. The dad's black hat had rhinestone embroidered writing on it. "R.I.P Kenny"

Apparently this was a "Thug Life" family. There would be no shushing, or deterrence because that was their lifestyle.

No one to intervene. No chance at all for that child to grow into his potential. No Way Out.

As I grabbed my order, the teen was hip-hopping past me. His parents were far from ear distance. I, in a loud whisper, rolled my eyes and said "You need to hold that down up in here". I said this knowing that potentially I could lose my life over an utterance as folks have been put down for less. But the teen, happy in his antics, just wavered his hand and hip-hopped on, the toddler running close behind.

Again, I ask, how do we tackle the problem of our youth when it begins within their homes with their parents? Education. Educate the moms in the hospital, educate the dads in the auto store. Education=Respect for yourself, your family, your friends and those you have no hold on. If I respect myself, I can then, in turn, respect you - right or wrong.

Adorable babies should be adorable babies, not thugs-in-waiting.

Here's to no more "Thug Life" babies - Cheers ~

October 9, 2009

Shocked and Appalled~


Now, this is a rant.

A long sordid rant. Well, isn't that what 50% of blogging is about?

I just had the displeasure of defending President Obama, and my joy in his Nobel Peace Prize win.

If you regularly follow this little forum, you are aware that I was vehemently a Hillary supporter until Pres.O won the primary. I then worked my behind off to do my part to make sure it was an Obama win, often coming home at midnight.

I have been pleased by his presidency. His grace under fire has been most admirable.

The situation our country was in as President Obama assumed office was unprecedented.

AND, no need to go into America's ugly racially disparaged past. A man of color in the White House who is not a servant or aide, or merely given a post. A man of color as Commander In Chief.

Eight men of color have won the prize according to American Affairs. The first being in 1950.

SO, my anger and displeasure comes from commentary within the colored race, that this win is undeserving.

How can promise be undeserving. How can a fresh approach not be worthy of reward.

He has met with people who were ostracized 8 years.

He has brought communication and negotiation back to the table.

I am so ashamed of the commentary. Why can't we just revel in the prospect. Take pride in something so honorable.

Encourage this moment by walking out of our comfy little homes to act, serve, stand proud and deliver and never tear down.

October 6, 2009

First do no harm...


Wholesome youthfulness. Integrity. Silliness. Spontaneity. Sex.

When I say teen to myself. This is what I typically conjure.

Not mad, rabid, homicidal brain stompers.

Through the years, our last three generations have witnessed major violent accosting.

The World Wars were fought primarily by young teens as well as many of the global atrocities. We all must keep in mind, life expectancy was shorter. People were married by 16, families in early twenties. If you lived beyond 50 you were doing great.

The genocides and village wars have been fought by young teens wielding heavy artillery. Life is not easy anywhere on this globe.

Having said that, if you promote being community oriented, you can not help but WANT dignity and promise within your neighborhood. Self respect and respect for others should always be the goal.

In the rural settings we have become plagued by armed violence.

Urban dwellings seem to foster both armed violence and random acts of heinous, homicidal outburst.

The Gang Frenzy, as I typically categorize it, is my least favorite. I abhor gangs, as I have frequently shared before, but these latest attacks and their turf wars have me particularly concerned.

Initially, our thoughts go to the state of mind of the teen. Unfortunately, due to my line of employment, I have seen the more sinister evolution. The rotten parenting that is now the norm. Decades ago, when I was new in law enforcement, I had the occasion, pretty regularly, to interact with appalled parents and grandparents. That age is no more. Many offenders are offending with their parents and elders who also engage in other criminal activity within the home. This sad testament of society should really have those of us who are concerned alarmed.

The past few weeks have also proven that society is in a downward spiral.

My usually upbeat sentiments are peppered with the grim reality that slouches beget slouches. Families are turning out spawns that beat their fellow classmates to death with railway ties .

While I continue to maintain, per person, per population, we remain well within what is considered normal numbers for violence, it is so disheartening due to the nature of the violence. Young minds against young minds.

From pilgrims & indians, cops & robbers, to the mobs & slasher movies, our society covets deviant behavior and often rewards it.

I have no idea on how to band aid our violent history. From the lynchings to Emmet Till to now "hey, black folks we are killing ourselves". To the gang factions/polish/vietnemese/italian/mexican/puertorican/black and their battles. The Mafia, the "Drug Cartel" and "terrorists"...to me they are all in one: Angry. Disrespectful. Violent. Stupid. Shameful.

What do we do? My hope and quest is that we educate. From the tribal ritualistic maiming to the assassinations in the U.S.: Respect. Tolerance. PEACE.

October 1, 2009

A DAY MADE BETTER~

Miss Lori


A DAY MADE BETTER

What total fun. Miss Lori of Miss Lori's Campus, Soprano Restaurant, Office Max and a group of wonderful people gathered last night to celebrate education, providing a hand to our teachers and exchanging libations and fun.

I love listening to engaging voices, watching friendly smiles and interacting with exciting souls!

And though I am vegan, I HAD to taste a morsel of the CUPCAKES!






Food was great, company FANTASTIC!









Teri,Dawn & Jackie